I received a text message from a good friend the other day who was stressed over her big move coming up in March. 

Her message:

"I'm so stressed out about moving in with my friend in March."

"Why?" I asked her.

"Well, she has kids."

"I wouldn't do it," I told her.

Typically, I don't like to respond to people with "I wouldn't" or "If I were you," because I hate those responses.  I find it annoying and a complete disregard for the person's emotions (that's the future psychologist talking) however, I seriously wouldn't do it!

There is no way a fabulous 20-something woman should give up her freedom.  In my eyes it's like signing over your legal rights.  Don't get me wrong, I love children, but living with them is not an option.  Lifestyle wise and for sanity purposes.

"How old are they?"

"Their 6 and 7," she responded.

The fact that the kids are 6 and 7 makes me nervous.  In my head, I picture a scene from Yours Mine and Ours or whatever that movie was called with Dennis Quaid.  Food flying, kids screaming, sleep being disturbed, yeah, it's not the business.

"The problem living with kids is that you won't have any privacy, and probably won't get a lot of rest.  Think about it before you do it.  Don't move from one situation to another situation that's far worse," I told her.

If she could see my face, she would know that I was cringing the entire time that I was typing that message.  NO DON'T DO IT!!!!! I wanted to beam warning signs to her with a laser gun.  Do you think it would have helped?

"You can't find a roommate who doesn't have kids? Why are you stressed out about the situation?" I continued to ask more questions.

"I don't know how to tell her," she said. 

"Damn chica.  That's a difficult one because either way she's going to be upset that you agreed.  But a single girl living with a woman with kids is never a good situation."

I forgot to mention that, the woman she's thinking about moving in with is in her early 30's.  I'm sure she's probably cool, and tons of fun.  She probably use to get it back in her day.  Haha, I say that like she's a lot older than my age group.  She's not, but we all know two children and single is no joke.  She probably has to sacrifice much of her freedom. 

My advice to my friend was not to do it.  That's the only advice that I could give.

 What should my friend do? And, how does she break it to the potential roommate that she's no longer interested without hurting her feelings?