The reason I have such a Sailor mouth... I'm college educated and pretty well spoken, however, I have a pretty extensive vocabulary when it comes to profanity. Aww, I think I finally figured out the reason that I cuss so much. Well, you see, when I was five years old there was one influential movie that changed the way I began to express myself. Ha! The movie was Eddie Murphy Raw. My aunt and uncle were watching me, and had already made plans to see the movie so they brought me along. Well, little did they know that I would return home to my parents repeating every little word that Eddie Murphy said. My parents were pissed! I have tried desperately to cleanse my filthy mouth, but nothing has worked. I am capable of finding replacement words but there never seems to be a great word that shows hostility, frustration, or anger like a good cuss word.
Another piviotal moment in my life that probably had some influence on this dirty little mouth of mine was Popeye. Yeah, you heard me right, Popeye. Think about it, could anyone understand him? Hell, I know that I couldn't. So, I probably imagined him having a filthy mouth, but the sound of his voice alone cracks me up. Am I the only one with a Sailor mouth? Enjoy the clip below of Eddie Murphy's Raw.
Today I watched Joy Behar's show which shares the same title as her name. I was really ticked off with her rude and ridiculous comments. Her segment had a panel of individuals talking about dieting methods. First off, none of her panelist were Doctors. She started by criticizing celebrities regarding their dieting choice. She talked about Jessica Simpson, Beyonce, and several others. Oh, and she mentioned Jennifer Hudson for choosing a popular weight loss endorser. If I'm not mistaken, didn't Joy once endorse Weight Watchers? Or maybe it was Jenny Craig, either way, how can she judge?
She started off by saying, "I want to talk about these alleged food allergies.
Joy decided to make a statement that, "some people are tricking themselves to make themselves think they have food allergies to lose weight." She went on to say that all of a sudden everyone has Celiac Disease, etc. First off, you can't fake a food allergy. When you go to the Doctor about food allergies they test you through blood or a skin test.
Her comments were insulting, unmerited, and ridiculous. She really shouldn't make comments like that without having research behind her comments.
I have suffered from food allergies for years, and it has NOTHING to do with losing weight. People with food allergies suffer on a daily basis. She's really starting to rub me the wrong way with her comments.
I wonder how her co-host of The View Elizabeth Hasselbeck feels, since she's a longtime suffer of Celiac. So, is Larry King still retiring?!?! I think there needs to be more shows like this on HLN and CNN. No time for Joy Behar all day long!
Don't you just hate when you're unable to fall asleep? For the past three days I've been up. I think part of it is due to the fact that I take naps in the afternoon. How can I not take a nap? lol. The best thing since Peach Cobbler. Another problem is the fact that sometimes I have a tendency to think I'm freaking Superwoman and so I strained my back. Aww, so much pain. I've tried heat, massager... I probably need a deep pressure massage.
I figure since I am a complete insomniac, I can finish some writing, or write on my blog. Btw, I've been so behind on my blog entries. It's that thing called, Life but I'll get better at blogging more often.
So now, I'm watching this infomercial on a facial treatment system called, Nu Brilliance. Has anyone heard of it? The last thing that I need is to watch this infomercial because I'll start believing that it works and want to purchase it. I am a beauty supply whore. lol. I've never met anyone with more beauty supplies than me. Hell, who needs Longs. The shit is like $300, though. I guess I won't be writing any checks to Nu Brilliance anytime soon 'cause it would definitely bounce. "DENIED!" Ok, now I'm rambling a bunch on non-sense.
Goodnight.
I'm having a hard time watching Desperate Housewives. Why does it seem like the show is skipping around? Am I the only one who feels this way? Now, the Fiancee of Lynette's son has been strangled to death by some dude who I can't identify. Seriously, who the hell is he? I obviously missed that part. It would be so much more interesting if the "assumed strangler" was actually a copy cat. I almost prefer for the Strangler to be Orson. He did always have a thing for redheads. Much more interesting than some random kid. Is Marc Cherry losing his creative mojo? Hopefully he proves me wrong. And, what's up with Angie's ex husband (the boys real father)? BORING! I don't care about this storyline anymore. Kidnapping the boy isn't interesting. I'm still awaiting the climatic episode, because I haven't seen any fireworks. They definitely waited too long to identify the strangler in the first place. Even if the strangler was a woman... so much more interesting.
I'm sure it's no surprise that there has been a lot of talk in the media about black women being single. The media makes it sound like we're "desperately seeking a mate." I mean seriously... I know plenty of white women who have the same problem. But, I don't really think the problem is finding a mate, because finding someone is NO problem... the issue is finding the RIGHT mate. I wish that reporters, media, blog enthusiast, etc. would get that little tidbit correct. Finding the right man can be difficult for anyone.
Everyone's solution is, "black women should be more 'open minded' and date outside of their race." Well, I don't believe that any person would deny someone of the opposite race if that's who they fell in love with, but what's wrong with wanting to date someone who is from your same ethnic background? People make it sound like you're an asshole if you say that you prefer to date within your race.
Whoppi Goldberg actually made an interesting point on The View this morning. She said that, the media always reports that she doesn't like black men, but that's just not true. Goldberg said that, she dates who approaches her and black men usually like "Halle Berry" types or women other than what she looks like. I listened to her point and thought that it was actually pretty valid. Personally, I think Halle Berry is probably every man's type: black, white, indifferent (haha). I believe Goldberg was attempting to make the point that black men are typically more interested in light-skinned women over darker tone women. I've never been turned down by a man because of my complexion not to my face, at least; however, I have been discriminated against in a relationship because of my race.
I see more black men date OTHER ethnicities rather than it being a "light-skin or dark skin debate."
In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with anyone dating outside of their race but I have an issue when black men begin to down play the black woman. I have posed the question to several black men throughout the years as to why they choose women outside of the "black race." I expect for them to say, "because I fell in love" or "it's what i'm attracted to," but instead the response is, because black women are loud, controlling, etc. "They won't allow me to be a man" this statement coming from a friend of mine. I thought that it was interesting, and rather than judge the statement, I listened. On the flip side, I have also been told by a few black men that "black women wouldn't give them the time or day." Are black women too picky?
Is this really how black men feel about ALL black women? I hope not! because, not ALL fall into this category. My friend continued to tell me that, he can do sexual things with his "white girlfriend" that he can't do with a black woman. HE didn't want to explain, but I'm curious to know what that means. What do white women do that black women don't do? Interesting!
Should WE just all date outside of our race? I'm curious to hear from black men regarding their thoughts on black women dating men other than black.
As I end this blog, I'm about to tune into Nightline on ABC. The topic is: Successful Single Black Women, Why Can't they Find a Man. Hasn't Nightline done this story a couple of times?
Sure, Sandra Bullock was in the movie, The Blind Side, but I highly doubt that she's blind. Just in case you've been living under a rock--i'm referring to Bullock's husband Jesse James' alleged affairs. I'm not too certain of the many women hussy's in question; however, I have seen Michelle "Bombshell" McGee all over the internet and television. Seriously, does she go away? A few days ago, I decided to watch Inside Edition and she popped up on my television screen again. Here's my gripe with her... She's stated that Jesse James told her he and Bullock were separated and living in different homes, but unless you live under a rock, how could you not know that they were still together? Her story is so full of Cow "S." I've read the stories how she sent James a message saying she was interested in being a model for his bikes "allegedly." Alright, Alright, maybe she didn't know... (side eye stare). Most women who are "dating" screwing will investigate via internet to see if he's telling the truth or not. Hell, even if he's my man I'm investigating (but, that's just the kinda girl I am!).
Let's get this straight, I don't think that she's vial because she had an affair with a married man, because as adults we are all responsible for our actions. She has NO obligation to Bullock. My gripe with McGee is that she's now all over my television screen. We know you had an affair with James you don't have to hop, skip, and jump on every damn station (I get it, she needs to make her money, too). I'm just repulsed by her. Ok, there I said it! I find her repulsive.
OK, I take it back! Maybe I am a little judgmental because she slept with James knowing he's a married man. I'm tired of women not having respect for themselves. I'm tired of women acting like "it's" OK to sleep with married men because they don't "know" the wife. I'm tired of women not having enough self worth for their own bodies. And, yes, it does have to do with self-esteem, in my opinion. Because, if you liked yourself enough you wouldn't allow yourself to be put in that situation. Do I think that McGee has low self-esteem? Ab-so-fuckin-lutely! However, I do NOT believe that that was her sole reason for sleeping with him. I definitely think that she was seeking publicity and money, and possibly fell in love with him (side eye stare).
I watched her defend her Swastika by saying she was young when she got the tattoo (it took place over 15 years ago) according to her. She has a ton of excuses. Her accuse for her posing in Nazi attire.... well, the photographer told her to wear it. So, if he told you to jump off a bridge, would you do it? Ridiculous!
I have a another gripe and it may surprise you. My issue is with Sandra Bullock. I know she's America's Sweetheart and "how dare I talk about America's Sweetheart." BUT, Sandra Bullock is not BLIND! I repeat Sandra Bullock is not BLIND! So here's my complaint... I know that she was in the movie, The Blind Side, and came across as the "Guardian Angel" blah, blah; however, that was just a movie. As I continue to read allegations that Jesse James is a Nazi loving, Skinhead saluting dude-- I also can't help but think that Bullock was aware of his love for Nazis. How can you be married to someone and not know that he's a racist? How can you be married to someone and not know that he has photos of himself doing Nazi salutes (allegedly)? I don't believe you can, and NO one can convince me otherwise. So then I started thinking, hell, Sandra Bullock is German... Seemingly, she accepted his alleged racism.
But, I just want to be clear. Bullock did not deserve to be cheated on and shame on James and McGee. I know that it's too soon, but I really would like to hear what Bullock has to say about everything. There's so much more to the story than we know, and so much more that I'm sure isn't being said. Only time will tell.
I'm sure when Gabourey Sidibe made her way into Hollywood she probably never expected for her weight to become such headline news. Everyone from Howard Stern to Nene from Real Housewives of Atlanta has an opinion. Howard Stern made a point that, because of her size she will not obtain many movie roles.
Here's my take on this situation:
Gabourey is an overweight young lady, we can all see that. Unfortunately, this society is obsessed with beauty and appearance. Do I agree with Howard Stern? I absolutely do! I'm almost sick of individuals saying that she's a beautiful young lady and looks great, because it's a lie. Yes, I think that she has a pretty face and beautiful spirit about her, but she's obese! Why sugarcoat the facts? Obesity is a silent topic in America, and it shouldn't be. If someone is too thin, we talk about it, but if someone is too fat we walk on egg shells--afraid to speak the truth. Afraid to hurt someone's feelings.
When I look at her and the scrutiny behind her weight, I'm reminded of when Star Jones first made her mark in Hollywood. Star wasn't an actress, but she was a talk show host and many people were uncomfortable with her obesity. Why? because once again, people want to admire a certain image. All people want to look at beauty, and not just Hollywood actors, media, or beautiful people. I'm even guilty of it. I once took a personality test in my Psychology class and it was concluded that I love beauty... actually, it said that I am obsessed with beauty and have to be around beautiful things and people to be happy. Was I surprised? Hell no! because, it's the truth. But, I'm not afraid to admit it! Neither was Howard Stern, as cruel as he can be.
For all we know, Gabourey could be losing weight, but until people begin to see a noticeable difference, she will be "the big girl from Precious." Yes, I know that's harsh, and trust me, I don't necessarily agree. I think she's a talented actress. Also, I think that she should be able to handle her weight issues in the privacy of her own home with close family and friends, but that's just not how the world works. I definitely think that she'll get offered movie roles, but lets be honest, how many roles are written for overweight women in Hollywood? Not many. Especially, if she is trying to become a full-time actress. Ok, lets take her weight out of the factor for a bit... Besides her weight, she has another strike against her, and that is the fact that she's a black woman. It has been widely discussed that unless you're Will Smith or Halle Berry, there aren't many roles for you. And, it took Will and Halle years to get such notoriety, btw. Maybe Gabourey will change Hollywood, who knows. We may all be wrong.
Another thing,
I've heard several people in the media compare her to Hattie McDaniel, Oprah, and Kathy Bates, in regards to weight. It's just not the same. And can I say, it's the silliest comparison ever. Are people really this off?
First off, when Hattie McDaniel started acting it was 1932. She began acting during a time when many black people were still considered second class citizens to white people. Also, Hollywood did not focus as much on weight than. Another thing, Hattie McDaniel often played a maid in movies and was often typecast. She was a woman who endured several unfortunate circumstances simply because of her color.
The comparison to Oprah...
This is another dumb comparison. Oprah began her career in broadcast, and I'm sure she encountered discrimination being a minority in the world of broadcast. When she began acting in 1982, as Sofia in The Color Purple, she had already established herself as a talk show host. Although, Oprah occasionally acts, she is not a full time actress.
Kathy Bates...
Once again, she began her career in the 70s. Yes, people were concerned with weight, but it was not an issue like it is today. And I'm willing to bet that when she began her career she was smaller.
Bottom line...
People shouldn't be so concerned about another persons weight, but the fact is, people are. I definitely think that it's unfortunate that Jessica Simpson gets scrutinized for her weight though. Jessica Simpson is not fat by any standards. However, Gabourey is obese and we can all see that. Obesity is a serious issue in America, and I hope that instead of everyone throwing darts at her and worrying about her "Hollywood roles" no pun intended! People talk about the real issue, and that is that, obesity is an epidemic in our country and needs to be properly addressed. She isn't the only one in America that is obese, but when you decide to become an actor that is the price you have to pay. No, she didn't ask to be famous... only an actor, but we all know that actor and fame are usually synonymous.
This was my absolute FAVORITE look of the night. Demi looked stunning and owned this dress! Whenever I judge a best dressed, I like to imagine myself wearing the gown. HA! The color is great as well. But, the overall fit of the dress is fantastic. Do you agree?
Worst dressed...
What in Sam hell was she thinking? This dress is horrific. Tacky, tacky, tacky! It looks like someone just put together a bunch of different patches and patterns onto a design. Sad thing is, I can't even remember her name. No lasting impression with this dress. Honey, fire your stylist ASAFP!
I am thanking God that I didn't witness an actual Tsunami, and more importantly that Oahu is safe. I woke up this morning around 3:00 am and not because I wanted to.
"Are you awake, turn on CNN," it was my mother frantically screaming in the phone. Clear across the screen it said:
ADVISORY WARNING: TSUNAMI WATCH IN HAWAII.
The craziest thing that I had ever seen. I couldn't believe it. I continued to watch as it said for everyone to leave their homes and go to the high point of the mountain.
"Where the hell is the closest high point?" You would think that I would know these things prior to a potential natural disaster.
I hung up with my mom and dialed my friends numbers immediately. Around 6:20 am, I ran out of my house like a bag lady with my luggage and big purse in tow.
"Meet me in front of Don Quiote," I told my friend. (Don Quiote is a grocery store). I waited for my friend as I observed individuals rushing to get last minute supplies: water, candles, flashlights, jugs of water. It made me even more nervous when I saw other people running around like crazy. Even crazier, the checkout line was all the way near the produce--backed up!
As we made our way out of the store to find the mountain top--we noticed people lined up outside of Mcdonald's. Seriously?!?! But, I'm sure Mickey D's was thrilled about all the business it was getting. We walked to the shopping center... figuring, it was extremely high up.
"Sorry ladies, but you can't sit here, the mall is closed."
Are you serious? Well, do you know where we're supposed to go?
"I don't know! the security guard said."
I don't know, is not a phrase you want to hear when there is a potential natural disaster. Worst yet, we were on foot.
We walked and walked and walked...
Then we decided to catch a cab to one of the college campuses. Only 10 other people were there waiting, but it was nice to know that we weren't alone.
Right now, I'm watching this movie on Lifetime called The Pregnancy Pact. Although, the movie is fictional, it is inspired by true events. Wow, this movie is making me think a lot about the unrealistic expectations that parents, churches, and society place on teens. It's a sad day when teens can't have open communication with their parents and ask for condoms. Beyond asking for condoms, teens should be able to have open dialogue with their parents, because that's the real issue. Condoms and birth control definitely help, but without education and open discussions, it ain't going to help!
I also watched Bristol Palin on Oprah. I listened as she confirmed her statement that, she will not have sex until marriage. Really?!?! Oprah even gave her an opportunity to retract her statement. Like Oprah said, who's to say that you'll meet that person, and even get married. There are No guarantees. That's definitely one way to look at it. Don't get me wrong, abstinence is a great thing. I use to say that I was going to abstain until marriage, but it didn't happen.
The odds of an already sexually active teen abstaining until marriage is kinda slim, lets face it! But, that's just my opinion.
The problem is, some parents worry so much about telling teens to wait 'til marriage until they have sex, and it's simply unrealistic. When parents place these standards on teens, in my opinion, it isn't practical. Yes, I grew up in a religious household, and I completely understand why parents and churches tell children to wait until marriage. Sex can be risky, it comes with serious consequences, and there are also emotional factors of having sex too early (psychologically, it can be damaging), but the truth of the matter is that, children today are different than the children in the 1940s, 50s, or 60s. The time period that our parents grew up in is not the same. When our parents were younger, most of them married young. Also, the ones that weren't married and having sex had a different level of responsibility. This is not to make light of the sexually charged children in todays society, but there is a difference.
Hell, I work in education, and the things that I hear children talk about is far more advanced from when I was in school. This is only my opinion, so don't chew me out for expressing it. I don't understand why parents get bent out of shape when schools recommend distributing condoms at school.
Condoms aren't the problem
The problem lies with children being misinformed, fearful to talk openly to parents, and the glorification of sex in the media. With that said, I don't see these underlying issues changing anytime soon. There is nothing wrong with saying to teens, "I would like for you to wait until marriage, but realistically speaking, it may not happen and in case you don't wait, here are condoms, please be safe, and talk to me if you have any questions."
I remember attending school and unfortunately, Sex Education didn't offer much insight into sex. Bottom line, I learned nothing in school about sex. This is pretty sad considering the fact that I had sex education in elementary, middle school, and high school. When I was in school, society was still in denial about children having sex so maybe that's why there wasn't a better platform.
Don't get me wrong, my parents were open with me about sex. However, I had friends who were far more advanced and were having sex. I recall being in 7th grade and my classmate having to leave school because it was discovered that she was 5 months pregnant. At the time, I didn't understand. It wasn't until high school when I realized that most of the kids were having sex and some were rather promiscuous. It was the secret in the community that no one wanted others to know. Whenever I go back home to visit it's no surprise to me that those same girls who I attended high school with are 28 years old and have 12 year old children.
What's my point?
Sex will not go away, and will not go away. The fact of the matter is, it can't be swept under a rug. Instead of constantly telling teens to NOT have sex until marriage, they should be told to ask questions, ask questions, and ask more questions. In my opinion, children shouldn't be told NO if they need condoms, because it is more important for them to be educated and protected than uneducated and scared.
I'm sure you remember me telling you about my sister going purple for a 'Good day.' HAHA! Well, if you read the post you know that she didn't really go purple, but that she dyed a Die Hard Sacramento Kings Fan beard purple.
As I mentioned before, she is an excellent hair stylist, makeup artist... she's a renaissance beautician, there is nothing she can't do when it comes to hair, skin, beauty, etc. She's even been named the "weaveologist." Yeah, you read that right! If you want your weave to look good like Sanaa Lathan and Nia Long's, my sis can definitely hook you up. Her resume is extensive.
Seriously, if it weren't for her I probably would have been 20 before I got my eyebrows waxed, and I would have just looked a total mess.
Having a big sister to school you is the best, and I wouldn't trade her for anyone else. Look below for pictures of her working her magic on set of Good Day Sacramento.
If you want to schedule an appointment with my sister, you can contact her at itsmihair@gmail.com. Did I mention that she has over 12 years experience? She knows her craft and owns it!
Well, here's a Confession: I'm still broke as hell, but I want to change.
"Ten percent of all earning is yours to keep," my father use to tell me everyday when I was a kid.
Unfortunately, the statement went in one ear and out the other. I was 9. How could anyone expect a 9 year old to conceptualize that?
I get it now. The message was about the principal of being able to save. To have financial relief.
"Lord, what I'd do for financial freedom."
As a kid, I had this yellow bear bank that my brother won for me at the California State Fair. I cherished that bank. I felt like such an adult with responsibility to be able to save money.
I had so much money as a kid! But, then again, I didn't have rent, bills, tuition, OH, did I mention, BILLS!
I know that I'm not the only single girl experiencing this grief. I look at the clothes in my closet and I think, "Whelp, I probably shouldn't have bought that sexy red dress or those satin shoes."
"It's cheap. Only $100 for both," I'm walking around the mall talking to myself. I see the stares and whispers from people.
"Is she debating with herself about purchasing a cheap ass dress and shoes?" In my mind this is what people say.
At this moment, I am being "stalked" by annoying 800, 888, and strange numbers from different area codes. I use the word "stalked" very loosely. I refuse to answer! I say they're stalking me, but truthfully the only crime that they've committed is calling me 10 times a day, if that's even a crime. If it were a guy calling me 10 times at ridiculous hours of the day, I'm pretty sure it would be classified as stalking. Better yet, I would immediately place him in the "crazy guy" category. Come on, every girl has a "crazy guy" category.
I have already committed a sin.
Suze Orman always says that you should answer the phone when the bill people call, but hell I'll think about it.
"Hello, Happy New Year, I'm far too fabulous, and broke for this, F off, If I was rollin in dough you wouldn't need to call me, I'd pay you you're freakin money" that's the speech that I have planned for the pesky operators but of course I never say that.
I keep thinking of ways that I can cut back; however, I'm already limiting myself to the max. I suppose if I consulted with Suze Orman she would probably yell at me for having cable and internet, but am I suppose to live in darkness.
What can I say, there's nothing more priceless than waking up on a Saturday morning and being able to watch Lifetime. The crazy sagas of men cheating, getting caught, and something that's 'based on a true story,' those are my favorites. HA!
Here I go, I'm making excuses, but this is reality. I don't have many vices, is it wrong to have just one or two or three that doesn't include indulging in alcohol, clubs, or tabacco? Hell no, I say.
Oh, and if you're wondering why I don't get rid of the internet that's an easy explanation, I'm a writer and all writers need the internet. Nope, I refuse to sit at some bootleg coffee shop or internet cafe located in the corner of an alley and blog. Besides, their schedule probably doesn't fit in with my busy schedule.
I'm sitting here at 12 pm watching another episode of Suze Orman as she screams, "denied!" I can only imagine the long list of things I would be "DENIED!
"But Suze can I have cable tv?"
DENIED
"I have three trips planned this year, and I really want to go."
DENIED
"I want to get my damn eyebrows waxed, so that I don't look like Groucho Marx's sister from another mister."
"Let me spell it out for you my dear, D-E-N-I-E-D, DENIED, do I need to repeat myself? "No trips this year, no sushi, NO, NO, NO," she would say screaming in her high pitched voice.
"Basically, what I'm hearing is that you want me to be a damn hermit and hide under a rock, GREEEATTTT...." that would be my reply.
If I were married maybe this would be easier...
I can't believe I even just made that statement. I definitely know that it doesn't get easier. I'd probably be even more annoyed with tons of debt.
I complain about my debt, because I can. Also, I know what I need to do to clear it. 20's are meant to make mistakes and fix it, so that in your 30's there will be No more excuses!
1. Good thing about being single and in debt: I don't have to worry about anyone else but myself.
Here's to 2010,
Getting rid of debt and continuing to be young, fabulous & one day rich.
Ok, so I know this post has nothing to do with relationships or dating, but I had to spotlight my sister Mia'sha Helton Washington and her amazing skills.
My sister is a stylist in Sacramento, California and was featured on Good Day Sacramento. She decided to grant this Die-hard Kings fan his wish of dyeing his beard purple. His beard came out really nice, what do you think?
