I'm sure it's no surprise that there has been a lot of talk in the media about black women being single.  The media makes it sound like we're "desperately seeking a mate."  I mean seriously... I know plenty of white women who have the same problem.  But, I don't really think the problem is finding a mate, because finding someone is NO problem... the issue is finding the RIGHT mate.  I wish that reporters, media, blog enthusiast, etc. would get that little tidbit correct.  Finding the right man can be difficult for anyone.  

Everyone's solution is, "black women should be more 'open minded' and date outside of their race."  Well, I don't believe that any person would deny someone of the opposite race if that's who they fell in love with, but what's wrong with wanting to date someone who is from your same ethnic background? People make it sound like you're an asshole if you say that you prefer to date within your race.  

Whoppi Goldberg actually made an interesting point on The View this morning.  She said that, the media always reports that she doesn't like black men, but that's just not true.  Goldberg said that, she dates who approaches her and black men usually like "Halle Berry" types or women other than what she looks like.  I listened to her point and thought that it was actually pretty valid.  Personally, I think Halle Berry is probably every man's type: black, white, indifferent (haha).  I believe Goldberg was attempting to make the point that black men are typically more interested in light-skinned women over darker tone women.  I've never been turned down by a man because of my complexion not to my face, at least; however, I have been discriminated against in a relationship because of my race.  

I see more black men date OTHER ethnicities rather than it being a "light-skin or dark skin debate."  

In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with anyone dating outside of their race but I have an issue when black men begin to down play the black woman.  I have posed the question to several black men throughout the years as to why they choose women outside of the "black race."  I expect for them to say, "because I fell in love" or "it's what i'm attracted to," but instead the response is, because black women are loud, controlling, etc.  "They won't allow me to be a man" this statement coming from a friend of mine.  I thought that it was interesting, and rather than judge the statement, I listened.  On the flip side, I have also been told by a few black men that "black women wouldn't give them the time or day."  Are black women too picky? 

 Is this really how black men feel about ALL black women? I hope not! because, not ALL fall into this category.  My friend continued to tell me that, he can do sexual things with his "white girlfriend" that he can't do with a black woman.  HE didn't want to explain, but I'm curious to know what that means.  What do white women do that black women don't do? Interesting! 

Should WE just all date outside of our race? I'm curious to hear from black men regarding their thoughts on black women dating men other than black.  


As I end this blog, I'm about to tune into Nightline on ABC.  The topic is: Successful Single Black Women, Why Can't they Find a Man.  Hasn't Nightline done this story a couple of times?