Today I went to the dentist for my annual cleaning, and I was reminded of why I HATE going.  I sat in the chair--moving, kicking, making odd noises... a mess! The dentist kept saying to me, "raise your hand if you need a break."  Although, it was an uncomfortable experience, to say the least--I refused to raise my damn hand.  I just wanted it to be over! The time just couldn't go by any faster.  It felt like I was in the chair for an hour, but truthfully it was only 20 minutes.  What in the hell did our ancestors do to clean their teeth? Did they use bamboo sticks or some funky shit? haha.  Just wondering! I guess after all is said and done, I have to deal with it.  I must say, my teeth feel cleaner and fresher.  Oh yeah babbbby!

I'm trying to figure out which I hate more, teeth cleaning or pap smear.  Both occur annually, both are invasive procedures, in both cases you're opening wide literally, and in both situations you can get a cavity.  HAHAHA! 

I feel like in both situations I'm uncomfortable, exposed, and violated.  However, by a small margin, I must admit I hate pap smears more.  Do you ever notice that for both a pap smear and teeth cleaning the doctor tries to entertain you? The dentist did do a great job of making me laugh, though.  I guess it's a little more difficult for the gyno to be funny when your legs are spread open.  Ha, talk about awkward. 

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I'm sure when Gabourey Sidibe made her way into Hollywood she probably never expected for her weight to become such headline news.  Everyone from Howard Stern to Nene from Real Housewives of Atlanta has an opinion.  Howard Stern made a point that, because of her size she will not obtain many movie roles. 

Here's my take on this situation:

Gabourey is an overweight young lady, we can all see that.  Unfortunately, this society is obsessed with beauty and appearance.  Do I agree with Howard Stern? I absolutely do! I'm almost sick of individuals saying that she's a beautiful young lady and looks great, because it's a lie.  Yes, I think that she has a pretty face and beautiful spirit about her, but she's obese! Why sugarcoat the facts? Obesity is a silent topic in America, and it shouldn't be.  If someone is too thin, we talk about it, but if someone is too fat we walk on egg shells--afraid to speak the truth.  Afraid to hurt someone's feelings. 

When I look at her and the scrutiny behind her weight, I'm reminded of when Star Jones first made her mark in Hollywood.  Star wasn't an actress, but she was a talk show host and many people were uncomfortable with her obesity.  Why? because once again, people want to admire a certain image.  All people want to look at beauty, and not just Hollywood actors, media, or beautiful people.  I'm even guilty of it.  I once took a personality test in my Psychology class and it was concluded that I love beauty... actually, it said that I am obsessed with beauty and have to be around beautiful things and people to be happy.  Was I surprised? Hell no! because, it's the truth.  But, I'm not afraid to admit it! Neither was Howard Stern, as cruel as he can be. 

For all we know, Gabourey could be losing weight, but until people begin to see a noticeable difference, she will be "the big girl from Precious."  Yes, I know that's harsh, and trust me, I don't necessarily agree.  I think she's a talented actress.  Also, I think that she should be able to handle her weight issues in the privacy of her own home with close family and friends, but that's just not how the world works.  I definitely think that she'll get offered movie roles, but lets be honest, how many roles are written for overweight women in Hollywood? Not many.  Especially, if she is trying to become a full-time actress.  Ok, lets take her weight out of the factor for a bit... Besides her weight, she has another strike against her, and that is the fact that she's a black woman.  It has been widely discussed that unless you're Will Smith or Halle Berry, there aren't many roles for you.  And, it took Will and Halle years to get such notoriety, btw.  Maybe Gabourey will change Hollywood, who knows.  We may all be wrong. 

Another thing,
I've heard several people in the media compare her to Hattie McDaniel, Oprah, and Kathy Bates, in regards to weight.  It's just not the same.  And can I say, it's the silliest comparison ever.  Are people really this off?

First off, when Hattie McDaniel started acting it was 1932.  She began acting during a time when many black people were still considered second class citizens to white people.  Also, Hollywood did not focus as much on weight than.  Another thing, Hattie McDaniel often played a maid in movies and was often typecast.  She was a woman who endured several unfortunate circumstances simply because of her color. 

The comparison to Oprah...
This is another dumb comparison.  Oprah began her career in broadcast, and I'm sure she encountered discrimination being a minority in the world of broadcast.  When she began acting in 1982, as Sofia in The Color Purple, she had already established herself as a talk show host.  Although, Oprah occasionally acts, she is not a full time actress.     

Kathy Bates...
Once again, she began her career in the 70s.  Yes, people were concerned with weight, but it was not an issue like it is today.  And I'm willing to bet that when she began her career she was smaller.

Bottom line...
People shouldn't be so concerned about another persons weight, but the fact is, people are.  I definitely think that it's unfortunate that Jessica Simpson gets scrutinized for her weight though.  Jessica Simpson is not fat by any standards.  However, Gabourey is obese and we can all see that.  Obesity is a serious issue in America, and I hope that instead of everyone throwing darts at her and worrying about her "Hollywood roles" no pun intended! People talk about the real issue, and that is that, obesity is an epidemic in our country and needs to be properly addressed.  She isn't the only one in America that is obese, but when you decide to become an actor that is the price you have to pay.  No, she didn't ask to be famous... only an actor, but we all know that actor and fame are usually synonymous.   

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In crazy folks news.

A Kentucky woman was charged with assault after she allegedly squirted breast milk into the face of a deputy, sparking online debate Sunday in the local media.

Toni Tramel, 31, was arrested Thursday for public intoxication in Owensboro, WYMT-TV reported, but it is what she did next which has attracted headlines.

As Tramel changed into an inmate uniform, she squirted a stream of breast milk into the face of the female deputy watching over her.

A press release from the Daviess County, Kentucky, Detention Center, said that after the deputy decontaminated herself from the "bio-hazard", Tramel was charged with third degree assault.

While the public drunkenness was merely a misdemeanor offense, the assault is a felony charge and a US$10,000 bond was set.

Reports of the case have sparked debates about whether using breast milk as a weapon should constitute a felony assault case, with many readers likening it to an accused person spitting on an officer.

Also sparking feedback has been the use of the term "bio-hazard" to describe breast milk.

This is hilarious.  So everyone out there be careful, if you piss someone off they just may squirt you with some tit-tay milk (allegedly).  First off, who would even think of poppin out a boob and using it as a weapon? I guess a crazy woman, right? I feel for the deputy.  No one wants some contaminated milk of any kind sprayed in their face.  Officer please lock her up and throw away the keys!




Source via Foxnews.com
Video Clip via Redlasso.com

 

And the winner is....

Demi Moore for best dressed


This was my absolute FAVORITE look of the night.  Demi looked stunning and owned this dress! Whenever I judge a best dressed, I like to imagine myself wearing the gown. HA! The color is great as well.  But, the overall fit of the dress is fantastic.  Do you agree?

Worst dressed...


What in Sam hell was she thinking? This dress is horrific.  Tacky, tacky, tacky! It looks like someone just put together a bunch of different patches and patterns onto a design.  Sad thing is, I can't even remember her name.  No lasting impression with this dress.  Honey, fire your stylist ASAFP! 

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I keep hearing the term "open marriage" but what does that really mean? I guess from how its been explained the couple agrees to openly communicate with each other and have no secrets and no lies within the marriage.  The other catch is that, if someone steps out of the marriage and cheats it's admissible to the couple. Sounds legit! I think that so many people cheat on their spouses and lie about it, so why not say to your lover "hey, if you're going to do it, please let me know."  Ok, maybe that doesn't solve much of anything but it does allow couples to communicate without the fear.  

Lets be honest with ourselves...
How many couples file for divorce immediately after hearing that their lover cheated? Most of the time they don't file for divorce.  So, if a couple isn't going to get divorced based on cheating, doesn't it make more since to just put it on the table that cheating is not a deal breaker or possible reason for divorce or to break up?!?!  

I'm talking about open marriages but honestly I assume that it's the same thing as being polyamorous; where the couple agrees that it is ok to bring someone else into their relationship.  The difference in polyamorous relationships is that the couple isn't married.  I actually know a couple who have agreed to this.  They've been together for years and it seems to work for them.  BTW, that interview is coming soon.

Several research indicates that open marriages have existed since the 70's.  Well, that's noted research.  I believe it probably existed before then.  In fact, according to Wed MD ( a website that discusses health and sex) the term "open marriage" was first coined in 1972 by George and Nena O'Neill when they wrote a book titled, Open Marriage.  

On the flip side...
Honestly though, is it realistic? I only ask because women and men naturally communicate differently.  You know the saying based on John Gray's book, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.  What are the odds of a couple telling each other EVERY little detail? Although, it may be established in the beginning to openly communicate about desires, fantasies, and secrets, someone may still be deceptive in the marriage.  I would love to interview a married couple and ask them more questions about this topic.  I'm intrigued by it.  I wonder what is the success rate of marriages that have an open agreement.  Furthermore, how many couples are in open marriages? The article on Web MD states, that 4 to 9 percent of marriages in the United States probably have an open arrangement.  I would predict more.  Interested in hearing actual stats on this.

On the other hand, I know so many couples who are married and living a lie.  I guess having an open marriage would alleviate a bit of the unhappiness.  Seemingly, having an open marriage seems to work for several couples.  Actress/Comedian Monique recently discussed her open marriage with her husband.  She's received a lot of flak on it.  I think that if it works for her then great, but maybe the grounds of her marriage should have been kept privately between her and her husband.  Maybe she shouldn't tell that they have an open marriage because it's no one else's business, but then again she is bringing awareness to the topic.  

Seems like in an open marriage, the husband is more prone to step out of the marriage since men have sex outside the relationship more than women (allegedly).  Also, is there ever really a commitment in a open marriage? If someone is giving you permission to have sex, will you feel as though you've been granted a pass?

I've also heard situations where the woman is unsatisfied and the man allows her to step out.  So, it isn't always about the man.  But, does the relationship become unbalanced if one person has sex cheat while the other person doesn't? Maybe, Maybe not.  Are human beings just greedy? is it a natural instinct to want to indulge in more? Maybe human beings aren't made to only have one lover, maybe we are. Or maybe, having an open marriage is being realistic with each other, so that the other person isn't blindsided.  

All in all, I think that if a couple finds that a particular way (conventional or not) works for them then, so be it.  Thoughts??? 

Source via Web MD