I'm sure you recall me telling you about the guy who wanted me to be the "other woman..." Well, he emailed me again, but this time his email went a little different.
"Hey, I haven't heard from you, so I'll take that as a hint and figure that, you're not interested."
"Um, ding-ding-ding," I said aloud as I read the email.
The real question is, Why is this dude still contacting me?
"Sorry if you felt like I disrespected you, but if we don't take chances in life, what are we living for?"
Did he really run that line on me? "If we don't take chances..." First off, cheating on your wife is not a chance you should be wanting to take. It's never a good situation.
"If you ever change your mind, please don't hesitate to contact me," he said.
I didn't even finish the whole email before calling up my friend 'L' and telling her about the crazy email.
"Yea, he's crazy," she said.
I knew that he was crazy, but I just needed someone to confirm it for me.
I still refuse to dignify his off shit with a response. I mean seriously, who does that?
Apparently, several married men. Seemingly, 2009 was the year of cheats coming out of the wood works.
Who solicits sex via email? He must be the dumbest man ever. Doesn't he realize women are clever? Men don't give us enough credit. His wife has probably been all through his email checking up on his ass. LOL. Seriously!
I wanted to respond back to him and tell him to get a life, but I am a firm believer that sometimes silence is the best weapon.
The worse thing about this all is that, he lives across the street. I guess he thought that he was going to get some quick start booty from me or something.
I wonder, how many people are in unhappy marriages?
Ok, so I know this post has nothing to do with relationships or dating, but I had to spotlight my sister Mia'sha Helton Washington and her amazing skills.
My sister is a stylist in Sacramento, California and was featured on Good Day Sacramento. She decided to grant this Die-hard Kings fan his wish of dyeing his beard purple. His beard came out really nice, what do you think?
What is it about some married men! Don't get me wrong, this post is not to bash married men, because there are several men out there who are committed, in love, and respect their relationships. However, I'm annoyed with married men who believe it's ok to push up on single women or send inappropriate emails.
Last month
I received an email from an old acquaintance. Nothing alarming about that, right?!?! Well, that's what I thought until I continued reading the email.
"Hello," he said.
"What the hell, I'm just going to say it," he continued.
"I really am attracted to you and I want us to pleasure each other."
"I don't want to leave my wife, or anything like that."
"The truth of the matter is, I have been attracted to you all along."
I was floored! First off, Why did he decide to send me this email? He's a married man. I wrecked my brain that day trying to think back, and trying to remember if I in some way delivered a "F-me vibe" but NOPE, I hadn't.
As I continued to read the long email, he talked about how his wife was going to be out of town, and that he really wanted to see me.
"If you want a little fun, call me. But, if I don't hear back from you, I understand, please don't hate me, or avoid me when you see me," he said.
I didn't respond back to his email. What was I suppose to say in response? I was so offended. He and I were always cool, and never in a million years did I expect to receive a message like that from him. He should have known that I wouldn't respond.
The only thought that entered my mind was in regards to his wife. How could this man disrespect his wife like that?
Emailing
Another thing, what the hell is up with people using email, texting, etc. as their main form of communication? It's like person to person or phone contact no longer exist. I think that people are weird when they send random messages electronically, but maybe that's just me.
Obviously, there are several women who probably would have taken him up on his offer; however, I never will be the 'other woman.'
I've been going back and forth trying to figure out where I want to live once I complete graduate studies. This next place will be my final decision, so I want to plan accordingly.
I have been blessed to live in a few states. I have lived in California, Alabama, Nevada, and Hawai'i. I'm kinda picky as to what I need out of a state in order to settle. I want to live somewhere that isn't too cold, has a beach, low crime rate, and beautiful scenery. I think that I have been spoiled by living in Hawai'i. I wish that I could stay living here, but for what I want to do-- it isn't the place. However, I definitely would love to retire here.
I'm a writer, and soon to be psychologist, so I have to live somewhere that is booming in both fields. I'm questioning my move, but most likely I will move to San Francisco or somewhere in The Bay Area. It reminds me of Hawai'i, but there are more opportunities for me.
The only disappointment about San Francisco is the high crime rate, and the bridges. I have a terrible fear of driving across the bridge. Lol. Kinda lame, I know. But, hearing stories about the bridge collapsing doesn't help. All in all, I know that it is a great city for a single girl to work hard, and play hard.
I ask, because I never hear anyone talk about it anymore. A few years ago, I was obsessed with looking up dudes on this site. I was shocked when someone I crushed on in high school actually popped up. His rap sheet was a mess. Of course there's no way to tell if it's legit, but the mere fact that someone took time out to write a list of things about him is hilarious.
I couldn't resist. Tonight, I typed in a few guys names just for old times sake, but luckily there were no results. Maybe people aren't familiar with this site or have forgotten about it. Just imagine if everyone stuck together and reported every bad guy or date... us women wouldn't be surprised when a date acts out of pocket.
I encourage women to start reporting bad guys on this site and spread the word. It may actually help someone out.
When the clock strikes midnight every single girl looks around hoping for that kiss. Some are lucky to receive a passionate kiss from a cute guy, but others aren't so lucky. What is it about this particular holiday that makes single people crave a relationship?
G (guy) & T (girl) Flashback
They had been dating for almost a year, but every time T mentioned holidays G became more distant.
"What are your plans for New Years Eve?" she asked him. As he looked away from her she knew that the conversation was going to take a different turn.
"I'm actually going to Las Vegas with my boys," G said.
At the time, T said that she didn't realize how much of a lie G's statement was. She wondered why he didn't want to spend it with her.
One day, T sat and told me about G at a near by Starbucks as we sipped on Soy Chai Tea. She told me that they dated five years ago when she was only 21 and he was 31.
"I desperately wanted to believe every word that came out of his mouth," she said. T spent that New Years Eve with friends and no man by her side.
He called her the next day to wish her a Happy New Year.
"Of course, I told him Happy New Year in return, but I felt silly for not bringing up the fact that he didn't spend it with me."
G and T continued to date for another three years... They spent the remaining New Years Eve in different cities.
A Brand New Year
Now 26, T Still remains single for the upcoming New Year. "When the clock strikes midnight, will I be that lame single girl for the 5th year without a kiss?" she asked as she continued to sip her tea.
How many single people won't be kissed this New Year?
I just watched Wendy Williams' show today and Regina King sat on the couch. She talked about "her wonderful man in her life" and how he was the love of her life. "He is a man," said Wendy.
So, it didn't take me long to figure it out! I don't even know if my guess is accurate, but I'm convinced that she's dating Malcolm Jamal Warner. For some reason, I assumed that he was still with Karen Malina White aka Charmaine, his co-star on Cosby Show.
My guess may not be accurate, but in my head I'm right. If they are together, all I have to say is "you go girl." I have had a crush on Malcolm Jamal Warner since he was Theo on Cosby... lol. Although, I'm about 12 years younger than him, but it's all good.
I may be jumping the gun here, but this is by far the best movie of the year. I definitely think that Tobey Maguire deserves every award that he's nominated for. It deals with pain, PTSD, betrayal... so many things make this a great movie. I actually want to see it again. Love it! And, Natalie Portman did a phenomenal job as well. Go see it!
Damn dating is difficult.
I honestly assumed that once you got to a certain age it would become easier. Well, I was so wrong. Lately, I've been wondering, how many frogs do I have to kiss before I meet my prince?
I read all these statistics about professional black women being single and unable to find love. It seems like it shouldn't be that difficult. If a woman is successful, educated, attractive, and is loving, wouldn't a man appreciate that? Seems like he should, but apparently NOT.
I've been dating since I was 17 (although, I hardly count that) so in actuality, I have been on a "grown folks" level of dating since I was 20. In my early 20's dating was just about having fun for me. I didn't have any expectations. I went out with people and took it for what it was. However, something changed when I turned about 25. I started wanting a relationship.
Now at 27, I feel that I want one more than ever. I always tell guys up front that I want a relationship, and that I'm not really into "hooking up," but some don't get it.
Wanting a relationship.
It may have something to do with the fact that, I am beginning to come into my own as a woman. I feel that I've done a great job at building myself up, but meeting a man who wants the same things that I want isn't easy. How many more frogs will I have to kiss before I meet Mr. Right? I know that he's out there, but finding him is taking forever.
Does anyone still write New Years Resolutions, or is that old school???
I can't possibly be the only one. So many things have happened this year. I must say 2009 was a really great year for me, and I can only pray that 2010 is half as good. I'm kinda superstitious and I don't really believe in sharing all of my resolutions, but a couple of mine:
1. To travel more
2. To workout more
HAHA. We'll see about working out. I did manage to lose 10 pounds within a year from being more active, so maybe we'll stick to it. I have about 40 things on my list. Realistically I'll probably commit to only half, but I like to push myself.
The stories about Tiger Woods cheating on his wife are not difficult to believe. The man is a human being! I'm annoyed with the media coverage. Why are they talking about him on every channel? There even discussing him on CNN. Did his wife knock the back windows out or didn't she? That is the question. Who really cares? And, what does that have to with us? Are we going to gain something by knowing the intimate details of his life? I think not!
All these scallywags that are popping up.... gross! I'm insulted by his taste in women and would rather not know who he's sleeping with. What's my gripe? I'm annoyed with the media attention and Tiger Cheetah cat for not having better security on his business. How humiliating. Damn Tiger! I really defended this guy as much as possible, too.
When all is said and done everyone has the right to privacy. There's also been discussion about him losing his endorsements, and I really don't think that he should lose them. What's the point? His trifflin activities has nothing to do with his performance as a golfer. Don't take that away from him! All in all, I'm tired of America putting celebrities on a higher pedestal. He's not God...
The question of the hour is, why do men cheat and leave tracks--especially when they have sooooo much to lose??? That's the million dollar question.
