1. I am thankful for having such a supportive family (my mommy, nana, and siblings are my heart)
2. I'm blessed to be healthy and alive
3. I'm thankful for being employed in this crazy economic crisis
4. The friends that I have who have been there for me through good, bad, ugly, and hardships I've had... you guys are the best!
5. Being in grad school
6. My Sorors who have showed me sisterhood
7. I'm thankful for the things that I have
8. I'm thankful for finally being able to let go of negative energy and learning the true meaning of forgiveness.
9. I'm thankful for publishing my first book of poetry after talking about it for so many years.
10. I thankful to be blessed.
I absolutely love this movie. I was probably 6 when I saw this movie. I cried and cried and cried. It was so sad when Hillary Whitney, played by Barbara Hershey died. Also, Wind Beneath my Wings is my favorite song. So touching! This film to me is one of the best movies about friendship and loyalty. Never underestimate true friendship.
Question!
Why is it that whenever you seem to not think about an "ex" they either pop up or call? "He" called, but I refused to answer. "He" is this guy that I dated about 3 years ago, but never quite got him out of my system (hehe).
I tried, I tried... to maintain a friendship with him, but if a friendship is based on good will and a connection between two, our friendship ended years ago.
"He" lies
Have you ever been friends with someone and you totally can predict the next lie they're about to utter? It becomes lie after lie, after... hell... eventually lies turn into horse do-do.
What would be the point? I've been there before with him.... when I say that I've been there before, I'm referring to the drama.
It's like a part of me wanted to pick up the phone and see how he was doing, because I haven't talked to him in a few weeks, but I knew picking up would involve me being extremely irritated and overall discontentment with the conversation. Hell, I probably shouldn't even consider him an ex since "he" says we never dated. The nerve... I felt disrespected and utterly annoyed when he said that. If anything, "I should be the one not claiming him," I thought.
What does "he" have? What was the attraction? I ask myself sometimes. However, my line of questions to myself are simply for 'self actualization' purposes, because I know exactly what "he" had, and what I was attracted to. You're probably wondering, but simply put, in the beginning "he" was charming, loving, kind, and made me laugh. "He" was that person that could make me laugh and I would crack up for hours.
"We" were completely different, but I was attracted to that. Somehow, his layers were peeled and I began to see a person that I didn't like so much. Once peeled, all that was left was a bare onion, and NO matter how many times I tried to stop crying I couldn't stop. Kinda an oxymoron, because a part of me couldn't stand him but the other part adored him. Or maybe it was me wanting to adore him. But then again I could go back and forth all day long with asking why and how questions.
I constantly get the most random text and blackberry messages (BBM) from people, but this recent BBM was too funny. My friend asked me in a message, "If you received a dollar for every guy you slept with, what could you buy? And, Please be honest. I wasn't really stumped for too long with this question (lol), but I thought that it was hilarious. I suppose there are several people who could buy Christian Louboutin shoes or designer clothes... Hell, maybe there are some people who can buy brand new homes. No judgment! Just not my thang. So what could you buy? Take my survey above
The guy from Mickey D's just text'd me. First, I'm kind of tired of guys using text messaging as their main source of communication. Please, don't BBM me (Blackberry message for those who are not familiar), or text me more than you call me.
I won't reply.
It's two days later from our alleged "Sunday date." He writes via text "Sorry, I didn't call you back the other day, I lost my battery!" At first, I didn't even know what he meant. I replied, "what battery?"
He said his phone battery was misplaced. How in the hell does a person lose their phone battery? HAHA. Some people crack me up. I didn't respond. I'm above all that. This crazy thing called being single.... gotta love it!
A typical Saturday night for me is staying inside my apartment, indulging in cheese and crackers although I really shouldn't, and drinking my favorite Risata Moscato d' Asti wine. However, this past week, I did something out of the norm. I hung out with a few friends and went to a football game. The football game was, well, I never pay attention to the game, I obviously go for the mens. HAHA.
Let me tell you what happened before the game. So, we all decided to go eat. Nothing fancy, just Mickey D's. Well, we were laughing, eating and gossiping... when this guy walks in and catches my attention. I'm not one to stare, but I thought he was attractive, so hell. Besides, he should have been flattered to have a beautiful woman staring at him.
My friends and I all finished and decided to leave, but "the guy" sat down and ate by himself. I decided to bust out one of my golden rules... business cards! Yep, once again, I always have one available. I went back into Mickey D's, sat at his table, simply introduced myself, handed him my card and told him to call me.
His name was M.
1 day later, he did. Typically, I have preliminary questions that I ask a man. We all should ask questions. I asked him, "do you have a girlfriend, wife... , do you have children?" It may sound a little forward, but I don't like to waste my time. His first reply was, "we'll talk about that later, just not right now." What was the big freakin mystery? And, why did he have to be so secretive? After he said that, he said, "no I don't have a girlfriend." Um, ok.
We set plans to hang out around 3pm. He wanted to come over to my house which is off. Um, get a grip dude. Bottom line, 3pm came and went. He never called. Was I stood up?
Ok, I'm re-doing my blog, again. LOL. My blog will ONLY focus on dating, relationships, sex, etc. basically, anything that is of interest to women, and I'll have topics about men too, haha. In order to make my blog better, I need your help.
Please tell me, what do you want to read about? Is there a topic that you're dying to read? Let me know! I have also added new sections. The 20 minute spotlight, will feature an interesting story once a month, I can't wait for you to read the first story.
Also, Lets talk, is a section that will feature real people, real answers from a question that will be posed to them each week. And, best places to date will discuss the best places for singles. If you know of a place in your state that is great for single people email me at lodie@lodiesblog.com, and let me know. I can't wait til the entire site is complete and I hope you all enjoy.
If there is one thing that every single woman needs that's a set of business cards on deck. I actually have been saying this for a while, and I happen to carry around my cards at all times. I was laughing so hard when I was watching Wendy Williams, and Fran Drescher said that it was one of her rules. This should be a law! Times are hard and it's not always easy to find a date. I use to be one of those girls that thought it was tacky to be a little assertive towards a man, but I have been hearing from several guys that they appreciate a woman that speaks her mind.
What do you really have to lose? I'm also just now learning that men don't always approach women. I don't know why, but I use to believe they did. My theory was, "If a man is interested, he'll ask you out." Ladies, it doesn't always happen that way, and looks don't matter. Well, I guess unless you're Halle Berry, I suppose. So you're probably wondering, what do you say when you give a guy you interested in your business card? I have listed my 5 top favorite lines below.
1. If you have some free time, lets go for a drink
2. Give me a call
3. Hey, I'm ... how are you?
4. You seem interesting, here's my business card
5. I noticed you, and wanted to know if you'd like to chat sometime?
Haha, so I know it's a bit forward, but like I've said several times being 20 or 30 something isn't always simple. Go for what you want.
I've been reading various reports about people being upset by Oprah Winfrey having Bebe Winans on her show this past week and not having Chris Brown on her show a few months ago. Allegedly, Winans was also arrested for domestic abuse back in February for kicking his wife. Well, people are outraged and are saying that O only had Winans on the show because he's her friend. Personally, I don't think that people should fault O. She should be able to have whomever she wants on her show, and not be persecuted because of it. I understand, she spoke out against domestic violence, but quite possibly there's more to this story.
What do you think, was Oprah wrong????
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